How to Help Someone Who Drinks Too Much
Anne M. Fletcher approached the question of how to help someone who drinks too much in a very logical way. She asked hundreds of people who had successfully dealt with their drinking problems how other people had helped them either moderate or eliminate their drinking.
The results are summarized in the following nine recommendations
that are included in her book Sober for Good: New Solutions
for Drinking Problems — Advice from Those who Have Succeeded.
Anne M. Fletcher
- Don’t stop loving the problem drinker.
- Don’t nag, criticize, preach, or complain
- Address the drinking problem directly.
- Seek help.
- Detach, separate, walk away.
- Set a good example.
- Take care of yourself.
- Be there when the person is ready.
To learn more about each of these recommendations on how to help someone who drinks too much, see her chapter titled “You Can Help.”
One of the five major myths that Anne Fletcher dispels in this book is that there’s nothing that others can do to help someone who drinks too much until that person is ready.
It may be possible now to help someone who drinks too much by suggesting that the person consider outside help. Free or inexpensive options include these.
SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training),
HAMS (Harm reduction, Abstinence, and Moderation Support).
SMART Recovery (Self-Management and
SOS (Secular Organizations for Sobriety)
These are much less threatening choices than AA for someone who drinks too much..
More ideas about how to help someone who drinks too much alcohol can be found below
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